We received a very interesting email this week in the AsianD8 office. A female dater has collated her thoughts on speed dating and is asking the question of whether ladies expecting a man to tick all the boxes on her check list are being too fussy. She wants to remain anonymous but is happy for us to share what she has to say here on our blog…
The Check List
Lippy? Check! Heels? Check! Dress? Check! One way or another, my best friend had convinced me to try something different and by different she meant speed dating… We arrive and the bell rings. He takes a seat and politely asks for my name. My thoughts are on auto pilot and it appears right before me; the check list. My mind is fixated on all the things this man should be and isn’t. The three minutes are up; he shakes my hand and walks away.
A moment of realisation of just how critical and uptight I had become, being little miss picky ticking off my check list and showing no interest in what this guy had to say about himself. Later that evening I decided to have a three-way conference call with the girls and quickly realised I wasn’t the only little miss picky ticking away my check list. Were we really letting this check list take the fun and pure joy out of meeting someone new? Now let’s be honest, we all have our very own tick list hidden away in our hearts, some of us willing to declare it and others keeping it locked away. If you’re anything like me, you’re likely to have at least 10 things on your check list, or should I say did have…
My realist best friend has never failed to remind me of just how much one cannot have everything; a compromise she says is always required as a special secret ingredient in successful relationships. My stubborn personality often shouts back “Yes I can”. However now that the years have spiralled by and the endless amounts of bad to be forgotten dates have become funny stories to tell friends and family about, it has got me thinking that maybe mother dearest is right…? (As mothers often are) Maybe we should re-think the “check list” and slowly begin to remove a box here and there?
Ladies, life’s everyday pressures can make dating difficult and before you know it, we can be scuffing down doughnuts faster than Homer Simpson and we start questioning whether or not Mr Right is even out there! We must remember that a check list should not block us from hearing a guy out at a 3 minute speed date but merely provide check points to stop us from making any past dating mistakes all over again. Maybe from time to time we should sit back and review our list, see if anything can be tweaked and learn to take it with a pinch of salt in the hopes of allowing ourselves to free fall into the arms of Mr Right. In the meantime feel free to have a peek at my little check list…
Before:
- Tall
- Good dress sense
- Great smile
- Bubbly personality
- Ambitious
- Great soft hair
- No chest hair!!
- Morning person
- Lamb chop lover
- A classy watch
- Able to cook
After:
- Still need him to be tall
- Good dress sense
- Well spoken
- Family man
- Hairy chest is still a no can do!
- Bubbly Personality
- Confident
The point is ladies; we all have our very own check list because we as women have the divine right to be picky. However sometimes we should allow ourselves to see beyond our check lists as this list may one day mean Mr Right walks past without us realising and we all know we can’t have that happening! So ladies when was the last time you reviewed your list? Go on have a little review of your list; you may be pleasantly surprised.
