Relationships end. Sometimes it’s because of you, sometimes it’s not because of you. Things change; situations change, life changes and these are things which are beyond our control. I found myself in such a situation recently when a relationship of mine ended. It wasn’t my fault, he just didn’t like me as much as I liked him but as much as I didn’t want to blame him i couldn’t help myself. I also blamed myself-asking the what if questions such as what if I had worn different clothes or acted differently? However this relationship didn’t end because of me, if he didn’t love me then he didn’t love me and I couldn’t change that ever. I also believe that people shouldn’t change themselves in a relationship; you should grow as a couple.
I had my days of crying, eating chocolate and watching stupid rom coms like ‘Bridget Jones Diary’ and ‘He’s Just Not That into You’. Friends called me to console me while I sobbed like a child, friends took me out to party while I had panda eyes. Then one day I took control of the situation and got a grip! “Priya, you are a strong, intellectual, independent and lovely woman’ it is his loss not yours so now get yourself back onto AsianD8 and show the guys what they are missing.’ As soon as I programmed that mentality into my mind I was smiling again and life went back to normal.
People here are a few tips to get over a break up:
I mean phone numbers, pictures, texts, emails, facebook profiles; everything! Whilst they are lingering in your life you won’t be able to move on because you will always be thinking ‘what if’ – what if he changes his mind? What if he starts to miss me? No! Move on and get on with your life, it is for the best.
Try something new..
Join a dance class, go learn a new language, take up hiking. Whatever you do go out and don’t stay cooped up inside moping around thinking about how you miss them. This isn’t good for your inner psyche. Making new friends, checking out new places and having new adventures is great for a healthy life.
Positive mental attitude
Just because he or she wasn’t the one doesn’t mean you will never find love again. FACT. So many people break up with their partners and within months they find someone better who is their soul mate. Go speed dating, join up to an online dating site or just go out on your own and meet new people and the world can be your oyster.
Chances are you may have over indulged on food, chocolate, alcohol during the break up so as well as having a healthy mental attitude a healthy body is a must. Drink water, go to the gym or do yoga. Anything that keeps you active is great.
However you choose to deal with it just remember you are not alone. He or she might have walked out of your life and I know it is cliché to say this but when one door closes another one opens. Be open to finding love again and it shall surely happen.