“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other” Audrey Hepburn
It might have been a while since you have had to date, especially if you are newly single, in fact a friend of mine was telling me that if they were single in this day and age they wouldn’t know where to start. Apps, dating sites and singles events are available in abundance; so where do you start?
Well, my friend’s predicament is echoed by many others who are in the same situation. Whether it’s a long term relationship that’s recently ended or you’ve just been out of the dating scene a while, the thought of getting back into dating is really daunting; but actually, there is really nothing to worry about.
First of all figure what it is that you really want. Do you just want to date and see what’s out there or are you looking for a long-term relationship. The answer to these questions will determine which site you use. There are plenty of sites and apps to choose from, so do your research before signing up to anything and parting with your details, it might be worth signing up to a few to see which ones suit you better. Your reading this on AsianD8 so you are on the right track.
When you set up your profile it’s good to keep it fun. Use smiley, happy pictures where you are doing things you love. Be honest and try and give as much detail as you can when describing yourself. When seeing who is out there and when you decide to communicate with someone remember it is okay to be picky, if someone says they are a smoker in their profile and you hate smoking, it’s okay to be polite and reply back to their message and tell them so that you would prefer a non-smoker.
Once you decide to meet someone make sure you put your own safety first. Ensure that someone knows where, when and who you are meeting; generally a trusted friend or family member would be good to share this information with. It isn’t that likely that you will be faced with a situation where someone will worry about where you are but it’s always good to have a back-up. Also mid-date (take a loo break) to let someone know how the date going so that they don’t worry.
Above all enjoy the process and be positive! You have made the decision to get out there and date so the world is your oyster. Don’t stress about it at all, go on lots of dates, perhaps even get out of your comfort zone and date people you wouldn’t have thought about dating before, go to a restaurant you’ve never been to or even try out an activity on your date. Whatever you do, enjoy yourself and let yourself be open to the possibility of finding the greatest love of your life.
Bio: Priya Mulji is a marketer and columnist based in London. Specialising in all things love, you can check out her blog at http://www.priyamulji.com